if u haven’t confronted him do it now, if u have spoken to him and he continues to do it knowing it hurts u, than it should be apparent to u that he just doesn’t care.divorce is an option, therapy would be another option.
What can you do except confront him and ask him straight out are you still in love with me or do you want this other women. Then go from there. References :
Call the phone company, take the text messaging off the phones and tell him that this is the only thing you are going to do before you file for divorce. You have given him 3 chances and he blew it. Tell him your marriage is like baseball – 3 strikes and you’re out. References :
It’s cheating no matter what. And you’re snooping no matter what. I’d say you both need to sit down and have an honest talk about your relationship. It’s obvious that neither of you trust each other. Perhaps a counselor can help. Good luck. References :
Did you talk to your husband about this? you need to tell him what hes doing is very disrespectful and he is not caring about the marriage at all. did you trying calling the women that he was texting?You should.Tell him also if he keeps messaging these girls we are totally done. like the time he is on there texting these girls dirty messages he could be spending time with you.Now imagine what he is doing when your not there.he is cheating by the way even though he hasnt had any sexual intercourse with these women, hopefully not. but he is texting dirty messages which means he is cheating. Now how is the sex life between you two? do you guys communicate often? do you give him enough attention? maybe he is lonely and horny and needs someone to talk to.but thats something that you and him need to discuss. Good luck References :
The texting is a symptom of a bigger problem, and that bigger problem won’t go away by removing texting from his phone.
What is he not getting from his marriage to you that he needs to go out and get from someone else? Are you ready to answer that question, or have you not asked it yet?
You have to fix this, and you can … but the question is: Will you? References :
Stop turning him down for sex! Show him respect and love!
It’s a proven fact over and over again that if a man cheats it is cause the wife NEVER shows any respect or love 90% of the time. References :
Just went through the same thing. I am firm believer if you have caught the person more than one time, this kind of behavior is something that they are destined to do, despite what you do. People just don’t change, because you have caught them. They change when they want to.
So my advice would be to break the phone up. I just did it recently and it was rather refreshing. Bottom line is that I honestly don’t think he is going to stop, because you tell him to. If he does not care enough about you after seeing how much this hurt you the first and second time, the third time, will probably be the same.
Hence breaking the phone. Do something to make you feel good about his infidelity. I call it infidelity, because cheating has several connotations, and talking to other women inappropriately is considered cheating in my book.
I am not going to tell you to leave him because that is not my place. No seriously I believe you need to do something to release yourself, and taking his cheating butt back. References : Personal experience, life experience.
Tell him what you know and tell him how you feel and see what he says. If it was me I would never trust him again so his butt would be out the door. References :
baby, if your husband is doing THIS……..don’t you think he is likely doing "other" things? I’ll tell you if I was personally doing this, it WOULD BE because I have other sexual interests…..FOR SURE. Not saying I condone this, but I understand this. Do yourself a favor, and spend a thousand dollars and hire a private investigator to get you the information you need to have brought forward. References :
leave him…. Not permanetly unless you want to.. But leave him.. Make him feel sorry and remorseful for what he’s done… dang, you caught him texting other women the day after valentine’s day? what a shame References :
Counseling…..lots of it.
Perhaps you should rethink this marriage thing.
And talk to him about your feelings and your belief. Is he doing other things?
Is he sleeping with someone else?
How far has it gone?
Is there hope for your marriage at all?
I believe marriage is a hard thing. Sometimes it may take a while to get it together, but it is hard. Not easy. Don’t give up on it. Confront him and talk to him about it. Perhaps tell him counseling is the only way you can stay with him for another day….
I am not sure what I would do………
Yes, I am.
My husband did it. I told him how I feel. We avoided that pitfall….now we are working on rebuilding this…Actually I am working on it.
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Turn his phone off.
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Confront him. Let him know it is not ok. There should be open honesty in the relationship!
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LEAVE HIM! DUH!
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What can you do except confront him and ask him straight out are you still in love with me or do you want this other women. Then go from there.
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Text him a message telling him that your filing for divorce,or do you wish to continue accepting his disrespectful behavior?
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You should find a real man.
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Call the phone company, take the text messaging off the phones and tell him that this is the only thing you are going to do before you file for divorce. You have given him 3 chances and he blew it. Tell him your marriage is like baseball – 3 strikes and you’re out.
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It’s cheating no matter what. And you’re snooping no matter what. I’d say you both need to sit down and have an honest talk about your relationship. It’s obvious that neither of you trust each other. Perhaps a counselor can help. Good luck.
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Did you talk to your husband about this? you need to tell him what hes doing is very disrespectful and he is not caring about the marriage at all. did you trying calling the women that he was texting?You should.Tell him also if he keeps messaging these girls we are totally done. like the time he is on there texting these girls dirty messages he could be spending time with you.Now imagine what he is doing when your not there.he is cheating by the way even though he hasnt had any sexual intercourse with these women, hopefully not. but he is texting dirty messages which means he is cheating. Now how is the sex life between you two? do you guys communicate often? do you give him enough attention? maybe he is lonely and horny and needs someone to talk to.but thats something that you and him need to discuss. Good luck
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I would have left the first time
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Mellie … you have some serious marital problems.
The texting is a symptom of a bigger problem, and that bigger problem won’t go away by removing texting from his phone.
What is he not getting from his marriage to you that he needs to go out and get from someone else? Are you ready to answer that question, or have you not asked it yet?
You have to fix this, and you can … but the question is: Will you?
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Stop turning him down for sex! Show him respect and love!
It’s a proven fact over and over again that if a man cheats it is cause the wife NEVER shows any respect or love 90% of the time.
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Just went through the same thing. I am firm believer if you have caught the person more than one time, this kind of behavior is something that they are destined to do, despite what you do. People just don’t change, because you have caught them. They change when they want to.
So my advice would be to break the phone up. I just did it recently and it was rather refreshing. Bottom line is that I honestly don’t think he is going to stop, because you tell him to. If he does not care enough about you after seeing how much this hurt you the first and second time, the third time, will probably be the same.
Hence breaking the phone. Do something to make you feel good about his infidelity. I call it infidelity, because cheating has several connotations, and talking to other women inappropriately is considered cheating in my book.
I am not going to tell you to leave him because that is not my place. No seriously I believe you need to do something to release yourself, and taking his cheating butt back.
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Personal experience, life experience.
Smash his phone with a hammer, and do it in front of him.
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Tell him what you know and tell him how you feel and see what he says. If it was me I would never trust him again so his butt would be out the door.
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baby, if your husband is doing THIS……..don’t you think he is likely doing "other" things? I’ll tell you if I was personally doing this, it WOULD BE because I have other sexual interests…..FOR SURE. Not saying I condone this, but I understand this. Do yourself a favor, and spend a thousand dollars and hire a private investigator to get you the information you need to have brought forward.
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leave him…. Not permanetly unless you want to.. But leave him.. Make him feel sorry and remorseful for what he’s done… dang, you caught him texting other women the day after valentine’s day? what a shame
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Counseling…..lots of it.
Perhaps you should rethink this marriage thing.
And talk to him about your feelings and your belief. Is he doing other things?
Is he sleeping with someone else?
How far has it gone?
Is there hope for your marriage at all?
I believe marriage is a hard thing. Sometimes it may take a while to get it together, but it is hard. Not easy. Don’t give up on it. Confront him and talk to him about it. Perhaps tell him counseling is the only way you can stay with him for another day….
I am not sure what I would do………
Yes, I am.
My husband did it. I told him how I feel. We avoided that pitfall….now we are working on rebuilding this…Actually I am working on it.
Good luck.
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